Whitfields

This is the story of a solidly middle-class African-American family that reunites for Christmas for the first time in seveal years. Ma’dere (Loretta Devine) is the Matriarch who’s Los Angeles home is where the vast majority of the story takes place. As with any family gathering there are topics that are best not discussed. When they are discussed here they end up in fights -verbal or physical (an excellent sister-on sister catfight stands out here). One sister is encouraging the siblings to sell the family dry cleaning business and split the profits. One bother is running from loan sharks. One brother is AWOL from the Marine Corps and One sister has brought along the man she’s dating at a historically Black college. Despite what the trailers and TV commercials may lead you to think this is not a warm syurpy comedy. There are dramatic moments, violence and course language. It is however very much a slice-of-life that not enough hollywood features present. This family, warts and all, is definitely not a hollywood feel-good film with blackfaces. It is authentic in it’s portrayal of themes facing African-Americans in particular but Americans in general.

A true portrial of each family of all walks in life. That sometimes why people prefer not to attend any family gathering or intimate family gathering only. Because as we all know claws and punches are bound to happen. Why be surrounded with people whom you are not comfortable with and just ruin your night/day.

As we watch the movie as a family a lot of sparks and unanswered questions from yesteryear and just waiting to be answer. But sometimes some things are just left where they should be and just go on with life.

I just hope that one day when and if ever we will have a family gathering I hope it will be a great one and something that we will all remember. Well, if issues are discuss I just hope that calmness will be with us as well as patience, understanding and respect for one another.

Unknown

I do not know but for some unknown reasons I just can’t stand him at all. Just the thought of him riding with us and living with us makes me crinch like there is no tomorrow.

I do not know the reason for this unknown hatred. If it is hatred. I just can’t stand him anymore but I do care whenever he is sick and out and not home at a certain hour.

Maybe because he is such a hypocrite, lazy and procasinator that I hate the most. He doesn’t seem to know when not to and when to. Common sense sometimes helps but seems like his common sense run away from him.

Just venting out this unknown hatred I have for him. I can’t even look at him or stand knowing his is coming with us. Just the thought that I will be around him makes want to be somewhere else.

Two Sides

No matter how we present ourselves to other people and how we tell stories. It’s never new that there is always two sides of the story. Who to believe, it’s up to us but it doesn’t mean that because we are close to the other person we believe his story already. We also need to weight things out and instinct will kick in.

Right now, I am in a situation where in I am hearing both stories and both are my friends, whom did I believe on, honestly no one cause I want to hear more and as they tell me their stories I am hearing and knowing who has been lying and finding out that one of them is living a life full of lies while the other is living a life of transparency.

Let’s wait and what unfolds along the way.

Ultimate

I got a hell of a headache and an ultimate hang over. We all had a blast last. Meeting new friends and some friends for as long as 20+ years.

It’s nice to hangout with friends and family and let them envy you. Ha ha ha ha! That’s what happened last night they envied as and you know why because we are the only couple in the group and the rest are experiencing some difficulties and cheating agenda.

You do not find love, I so believe in that. Love finds you in the most unusual place and time. Take it slow you will get there.

The ultimate question of the night was, “Why do men cheat?, asked Anne. There is no logical explanation on why some men cheat, cause there are women who also cheats. So what’s the reason, it’s just them. Maybe they got bored and wanted some more variety.

A night that lasted until 5:00 A.M. and NEVER again will I drink any drinks with VODKA in it. I am not a beer drinker or a cocktails kind of a gal. I love scotch, whiskey’s, rum’s and all of those hard drinks. Oh Yeah! I am a hard drinker kind of a gal and I even out drink my own hubby. Just imagine that. Last we all drunk and smoke….. hehehehehehehe!

We had a night to remember and a blast. Surely another is in the making.

U don’t need to be Alone

MY colleague, a grief counselor, was asked to officiate at a funeral service for a member of his wife’s family. He reluctantly agreed. On the morning of the service, his 12-year-old son asked, “What are you going to say?”

They talked, and the son asked, “May I go with you?”   Taken aback, the father asked, “What will you say?”   The son replied, “I will just stand with you.”

As I heard my colleague’s story, I thought that we often incorrectly assume that we stand alone. We fail to remember that those who share our lives stand with us in days of sunshine and storm. Where
would we be without family, friends, and colleagues? We do not walk  alone; others walk with us.

I also thought of Isaiah’s words. Humans may fail us, but the Lord is
always there to help us. God is the armor of our  lives and supports us when we cannot support ourselves. The Almighty is all-mighty. When no one else can help us and we cannot help ourselves, God stands
by us. God’s promise to help us is true regardless of the circumstances of our lives.

God, when we are apprehensive, assure us that we can cast our burdens upon you and that you will help us. Amen.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY:
Christ said, “Remember, I am with you always” (Matt. 28:20).

– William L. Dike (Florida, U.S.A.)