This has and have been a problem with friends and family… of us being too good and too nice. But then again I always of what if we were on the other end and situation and of course I do not want to be on the other end of the rope.
But how can you say something not so nice in a respectful way? Is there such a thing?
You want to reason out but you are hesistant and concerned that the other side might take it differently and interpret it the other way around and here you are trying your best not to hurt anyone and yet they are the ones starting to ignite the fire.
Before blaming why not investigate and gather the evidence and start from there. But instead of the long version they do the shortest one they can get.
Life is just not fair anymore. You want to help out but at the end you end up the bad guy….. Where will I place myself now?
A decade of plus after we are still man and wife.
Surprise, surprise, surprise!!! Yes, we are still together and going stronger as ever. Raising a family and enjoying parenthood and as a couple. Who would believe that we would last this long. When we started a lot of critics were already telling us that we would only last for a year and if lucky 5 years.
Look at us!!! We are celebrating more than a decade of pluses together and still loving each moment.
Of course we have our roller coaster rides of ups and downs but still we fought it as a couple and surpassed it one by one. Life was never easy in the first place but we made it through the storms and chaos life has thrown at us.
We learned to work as a couple and that communication, communication, communication with the respect, love, faithfulness goes a long way to any relationship.
Happy Anniversary, Daddy!!!
Decision-making can be challenging for anyone, but when a couple needs to make a collective decision, the challenge becomes greater, psychologist Dr. Josh Klapow says. The key is to recognize that the decision-making process is the same regardless of the type of decision, Dr. Klapow says. “Making decisions as a couple is not so much about what you decide on, but rather how you go about the process of making the decision,” he says. “If you approach each decision with the same game plan, then over time, you will become experts at decision-making.”
Dr. Klapow shares his five “smart” (set, monitor, arrange, recruit and treat) steps to collective decision-making.
Set a Specific Goal
Monitor Your Discussion
Arrange the Situation for Success
Recruit Support from One Another
If your hair is…curly
Your Good Fortune: Bold, vivacious ringlets come naturally to you. While some of us struggle to inject our hairstyle with a bit of an edge, you make rebellious cool look easy.
Your Challenge: Like teenagers and kudzu, curls can be willful and take on a life of their own if you don’t set some boundaries.
Your Ideal Cut: A style that dusts the shoulders lets curly hair strike the perfect balance between wild and soft, explains hairstylist Sebastian Scolarici of New York City’s Serge Normant at John Frieda salon, who masterminded the cuts on these pages. (If you want to move more toward the wild side, go shorter.) Layers should be very long—no shorter than six inches—except for a few in front to frame the face. Sebastian cut our model’s hair dry so he could see how each snip affected the overall silhouette (a good idea with curly hair). “You don’t want to thin out the curls; you just want to shape them around the ends,” he said.
Steer Clear Of: Short layers. Especially if your hair is fine (like our model’s), they will make your curls spring up too much (boing!) and disrupt the shape of your style. And if a stylist takes out a razor: Run. The result will likely be frizz and split ends. Even if your overall style is a little loose, your ends should be scrupulously neat. Swimsuit, Eres Paris.
Your go-to product: A rich, moisturizing styling cream.
Your salon checklist:
- Cut dry
- Shoulder-grazing length
- Long layers
If your hair is…fine and straight
Your Good Fortune: Frizz? What’s frizz?
Your Challenge: Without teasing or hot rollers or upside-down blow-drying (you know the maneuver), your hair can feel like it’s plastered to your head (and humidity doesn’t help).
Your Ideal Cut: A bob that’s angled slightly shorter in the back than in the front gives fine hair extra lift at the crown. Deep, sideswept bangs can also help create the illusion of heft (they’re most flattering if you have a thin or oval face). Another advantage to a shorter cut: It’s a lot easier to wash every day. If you have fine hair, you likely also have more hair follicles per square inch, which means more oil-causing sebaceous glands, which means roots that get greasy—and flat—without daily shampoos. And while you’re at the salon getting a new cut, you might want to consider a few highlights around your face. “Bleach causes the hair to swell up a bit, so it looks fuller,” says Sebastian.
Steer Clear Of: Too much length. “Once fine hair gets below the shoulders, it’s almost impossible for it to hold any style,” says Sebastian. And request layers only in moderation. A few long ones can add swing to your ends, but too many make fine hair look stringy. Dress, Temperley London.
Your go-to product: A lightweight volumizing spray.
Your salon checklist:
- Slightly angled bob
- Deep, sideswept bangs
- Face-framing highlighs
If your hair is…wavy
Your Good Fortune: You actually have the potential to wash and go…and look like you just stepped out of a beachside photo shoot. Your hair’s natural state is tousled, sexy, chicly relaxed—and humidity only makes it more so.
Your Challenge: Wavy hair can be a bit inconsistent: bending beautifully in one area, falling flat in another. And while steamy weather encourages the natural twists in your hair, it may also add some frizz.
Your Ideal Cut: Layers of varying lengths (starting about halfway between your crown and ends) encourage the shape of the waves and make the hair look fuller—but not frizzy. In spots where waves are flagging, shorter layers will inject them with more bounce. If hair is thick, like our model’s, your stylist can also thin it out a little at the very bottom—just the last inch or so.
Steer Clear Of: Razoring or serrated cutting (when a stylist slides the scissors down the hair shaft). Both can fray delicate waves and leave ends looking fried. And if you have finer hair, be wary of too many layers—you need enough weight to help your style hold its shape and resist poufing. Swimsuit, Lenny. Sunglasses, Daisy Fuentes. Necklace, Ten Thousand Things.
Your go-to product: A silicone serum.
Your salon checklist:
- Layers from midlength to ends
- Thinning, starting one inch from bottom
- No razors or serrated cutting
If your hair is…thick and straight(-ish)
Your Good Fortune: You have a lot of hair—thick, lush, and full.
Your Challenge: You have a lot of hair—heavy and probably a bit coarse. As the humidity rises, it tends to expand, usually into a triangular silhouette, widening at the bottom.
Your Ideal Cut: Length helps keep a mass of hair from becoming overinflated—but you don’t have to grow your hair down your back: “A cut that falls at least to your collarbone has enough weight to give you the extra control you need,” says Sebastian. You also want long layers, starting about four inches above your ends; they’re key to keeping your hair from stacking into that pyramid shape. And Sebastian always uses thinning shears on the last two inches, to take some of the bulk out of this hair type.
Steer Clear Of: Blunt lines. They’ll make your hair look, and feel, even heavier. “You don’t want a cut that’s perfectly even at the ends,” says Sebastian. And while long layers are a must, short ones will make it more difficult to contain your hair’s fullness—the last thing you need is a shag. Sheer top, Zimmermann. Earrings, C. Greene. For details see Shop Guide.
Your go-to product: A light-hold spray gel.
Your salon checklist:
- Collarbone length (or a bit longer)
- Layers starting four inches above ends
- Thinning from the bottom