How do you prepare when the dreaded call comes ringing your way? I for sure do not know what to expect. When that phone keeps ringing your thoughts go haywire and all the what if comes rushing in.
How can you prepare your family for what has or have to happen? Honestly, no matter how prepared you are there is no explanation of how will you received the news, how proper will you react and accept that dreadful news.
No, etiquette of some sorts can make you be so poise and proper and not even shed a tear. You just got to let it flow, be aware of your surroundings and just hang in there. It will help to talk to people who are close to the family and maybe share some happy stories. Share what they remember most, maybe a place, food, time or month. Maybe a favor quote or perfume or something to distract for a few seconds.
Death preparations can be prepared with the wishes of the going to die person such as flowers, what to wear, what kind of coffin, or for cremation what kind of urn, music perhaps, or if part of an organization they might have final rites for a fellow member. These simple things if prepared ahead of time and hopefully paid ahead of time will help ease of the family members left behind.
July 17, 2011 was a day we didn’t see it coming. A day where all our feelings, expectations and even respect fell out of the window. Instead of being consoled we all hated the people who think they know/knew of what to do.
We were nowhere near the area of the place where our Dad died and our relatives keep on insisting that we need to be there… and I wonder why? If ever we will be there will our Dad be alive upon our arrival, of course and plus we do not wan to remember him that way. And so we grieve individual, shocked and definitly numb of all the commotion going on around us. So we decided to visit our dad’s place later that evening and the first day of novena started as well.
Imagine that took this long to let this out for up until now I am still grieving. Didn’t even know that grieving can take years,months and maybe even a decade for others.
We are still out of words of what had happen. Still in shock that our Dad has join his maker and no matter what he ain’t coming back. He will be missed dearly and his abscence made a huge impact to all of us his family and friends.
But life must go on and that’s what we are trying to do. Get our lives back and grieve silently.
For forever he will be remembered, missed and loved.